Tag: family

  • PK’s, EK’s, DK’s: Our kids; God’s kids – 3

    PK’s, EK’s, DK’s: Our kids; God’s kids – 3

    The purpose of my instruction is that all believers would be filled with love that comes from a pure heart, a clear conscience, and genuine faith.  – 1 Timothy 1:5 NLT

    Continuing in the series of (our Saturday posts) our focus is on ‘Preacher’s Kid’s, Elder’s Kids and Deacon’s kids and the focus of scripture from Paul’s letter to Timothy.

     Why is the integrity of leadership in the pulpit and authority behind the pulpit important?

    Think about your preacher (minister, priest, rector, brother, pastor… whatever you and your church would like to call the man in the pulpit). Why would ANYONE in the church listen? Why would anyone from outside of your church family want to listen to this man, a mere mortal? (And I accept and include some pretty good preaching I have heard from godly women.)

    WE, the people of Christ’s church, recognize the Authority of God and Christ Jesus  inherent in the office of the Pastor of our church.

    Our LORD stands behind the authority of the pulpit.

    Yet IF NOT… IF a church leader of any office: Pastor, Elder, Deacon, even a mere member representing your church and claiming Christ; IF ANY Christian does not preach the gospel with the integrity of our life, Christ Jesus is maligned in our soiled image of claiming His Name in vain.

    The world has retorted our faith with stories enough of the evil of priests and pastors and hateful ‘christians’ with a cause more self-righteous than our own lives.

    PK fishWe would ALL do well to think of ourselves as being in the spotlight of a ‘Preacher’s Kid’ and modify our witness (behavior) in front of others accordingly. Please allow me one personal example.

    A number of years ago a young man in high school met two new students who turned out to be the son and daughter of the new Pastor of his church. These two ‘Preacher’s Kids’ were both well-dressed, well-behaved, more intelligent than most. It did not take long for everyone to learn that they were the new “PK’s.”  This label always preceded everything they accomplished and anything they wanted to do.

    Although he hardly spoke to the new boy and the new girl at school, the young man was more than pleased to participate with them on Youth Sunday along with his ‘church friends’ of the youth class at church. Unfortunately (as often happens in real families who do not live next door to the church), his family was a little late. After the service the new pastor, “Reverend ___,” asked by young man’s mom into a room to talk, closed the door, and talked to his mom at some length (no doubt a continuation of his angry exhortation about lateness in front of everyone as they all hurried into the ‘Youth Sunday’ service.)

    After that, this Christian young man no longer wanted to go to church.

    Pastors have to practice EVERYTHING they preach, don’t they? We expect this.

    And as for the Preacher’s Kids: imagine how well they had witnessed such things before, knowing many of the incidents like these in their biological father’s life (by their dad, who happened to be the preacher). Imagine their embarrassment when later it was found out that Reverend ___, their dad, was having an affair with the church secretary!

    Such stories are all-too-common for leaders of the church. The gossip ruins lives, in addition to the sins of the flesh of a mortal ‘preacher’ of the word. In a greater sense, we are all preacher’s kids. Jesus Christ made no such mistakes as are so often brought to light by the enemies of the Gospel. “See? Christians are no different,” they say.

    That’s right. We are ALL sinners – even the preacher – and even the preacher’s kid’s, like you and me. Jesus Christ is our preacher, God is our Father and in that familial sense, we are ALL preacher’s kids saved by grace.

    Never-the-less, scripture holds the leaders of Christ’s flock to a higher standard. You can see why.

    Paul points his ‘Preachers Kid’ in the faith, Timothy, to these higher standards for choosing his own children who will help him with the leadership of the church. You can see why.

    Once again (and without designation of ‘pastor, elder, deacon, preacher’s kid, elder’s kid, deacon’s kid, our kids, your kids, their kids…) let’s consider the higher standards of God for leaders of Christ’s flock:

    1 Timothy 1:

    8 Now we know that the law is good, if one uses it lawfully, 9 understanding this, that the law is not laid down for the just but for the lawless and disobedient, for the ungodly and sinners, for the unholy and profane, for those who strike their fathers and mothers, for murderers, 10 the sexually immoral, men who practice homosexuality, enslavers, liars, perjurers, and whatever else is contrary to sound doctrine, 11 in accordance with the gospel of the glory of the blessed God with which I have been entrusted.

    Paul is not yet speaking of those called to lead the church, but of those who we hope to draw to Christ by our righteousness in the Law. Yet sadly, in these last days, we need to point to a scripture directed toward the world which has not been heeded even by those who train our preachers, fill our pulpits, appoint our church leaders and then are ‘shocked’ to discover scandals by those who do these things even before and while they claim Christ.

    Paul goes on to point out what a sinner he was BEFORE he was saved and came to Christ Jesus in obedience to the Gospel.

     1 Timothy 2

    First of all, then, I urge that supplications, prayers, intercessions, and thanksgivings be made for all people, 2 for kings and all who are in high positions…

    8 I desire then that in every place the men should pray, lifting holy hands without anger or quarreling; 9 likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control…

    11 Let a woman learn quietly with all submissiveness. 12 I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet.

    [This is NOT to say that a woman should not preach or teach – a topic we will not approach here.]

     1 Timothy 3

    English Standard Version (ESV)

    Qualifications

    • must be above reproach,
    • the husband of one wife,
    • sober-minded,
    • self-controlled,
    • respectable,
    • hospitable,
    • able to teach,
    • not a drunkard,
    • not violent but gentle,
    • not quarrelsome,
    • not a lover of money. (Though) He must manage his own household well,
    • with all dignity keeping his children submissive
    • He must not be a recent convert (Young perhaps; but not new to Christ)
    • dignified,
    • not double-tongued,
    • not addicted to much wine,
    • not greedy for dishonest gain.
    • 9 They must hold the mystery of the faith with a clear conscience. (We will not elaborate here.)
    • 10 And let them also be tested first…prove themselves blameless.
    • 11 Their wives likewise must be dignified,
    • not slanderers,
    • sober-minded,
    • faithful in all things.
    • gain a good standing for themselves
    • great confidence in the faith that is in Christ Jesus.

    It’s a long list of higher standards to which we should hold the leaders of our church. I do not even qualify.

    Do you? Do your church leaders? Does your pastor?

    train up a childIn deed and in witness we are like: Preacher’s Kids, Elder’s Kids, Deacon’s Kids.

    It’s just like when our kids are somewhere else people look at them and say: “We know you are ‘Roger’s kid’ {or Lissette’s kid…or Roger and Lissette’s kid}. They may as well have said, “We know your parents. Why are you acting like THAT?”

    So I ask us:

    If we are children adopted into the Royal and Holy Household of GOD our Heavenly Father,

    WHY are we calling CHRIST JESUS our LORD, while our worldly witness does NOT stand up to these HIGHER STANDARDS of a “Preacher’s Kid?”

    Do we call a man to the pulpit or to church leadership without holding him, his wife and his family to the higher standards of the loving family of God?

    Dear Preacher’s Kid, of the family of God and Christ Jesus:

    Repent! and return to the loving Father, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ who seeks and finds even the lost sheep within the church — the loving Father who runs to meet the prodigal son… (or prodigal daughter…) and would welcome you home.

    He has trained you up in the way you should go.

    Now come home, beloved child of God.

    Pray also for me.

    Roger

  • A Temporary Throne – 24

    A Temporary Throne – 24

    CHAPTER 24

    And I thought more. Could the LORD not choose more than one people? (Perhaps a family on every continent…) Then I remembered: even in Noah’s descendants, sin remained … and more-so in the family of Ham and Canaan, whom God had already cursed.

    Perhaps if God could model His Righteousness through the descendants of Shem (for now), and then through the descendants of Japheth, later: I thought…

    Then I remembered that along with the curse of Canaan and the blessing of Shem (of the line of the fathers of Abram), Noah’s additional blessing of Japheth.

    Genesis 9: 27 May God enlarge Japheth,
    And may he dwell in the tents of Shem;
    And may Canaan be his servant.”

    THESE YOU CALL, ‘GENTILES,’ WHO RECEIVED MY BLESSING THROUGH THE JEWS BORN OF THE SEED OF SHEM.

    God’s omniscience (now evident to me), limiting the sin of the limited knowledge of mankind. I could not bless a man more sinful than Abraham; who like all fathers of faith demonstrated (along with their faith), sin enough.

    (Perhaps even like Abram, I would have allowed the blessing of my wife from God to go to a man of more wealth and power even to save my own neck. But the Lord returned Sarah from Pharaoh to Abraham.)

    I KNOW WHAT YOU ARE THINKING.

    “Yes, Lord, You know. I am grieved over the covenant of marriage.”

    MAN, IN HIS AND HER OWN KNOWLEDGE, HAS NOT CHOSEN WISELY.

    (I knew that by “man,” the Lord meant ‘man from dust and woman from man’ – ALL mankind.)

    “Lord, you know our hearts. Can you not change this?”

     

     

     To be continued next week: Marriage from the beginning

    A Temporary Throne is an original work of Roger Harned,

    © Copyright 2013, All Rights Reserved by the author.

  • Is that all there is (of my life)?

    Is that all there is (of my life)?

    And just as it is appointed for man to die once, and after that comes judgment, so Christ, having been offered once to bear the sins of many, will appear a second time, not to deal with sin but to save those who are eagerly waiting for him. – Hebrews 9:27-28 ESV

     

    What is the meaning of MY life?

    The paradox of purpose to a soul given our meaning by God:

    “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you,
    and before you were born I consecrated you;
    I appointed you … (to your purpose and your meaning), says the LORD.

    In Jeremiah 1:5 the LORD reveals His specific holy consecration and appointment of Jeremiah as “a prophet to the nations.”

    The LORD also knew you (as the LORD knows me). He has appointed you to HIS purpose. In HIM only will you find YOUR meaning.

    Why does the prodigal child ask a friend of the world and not the Father of all creation?

    “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise) – Ephesians 6:2

    Is that all there is wineWhy does the prodigal wife drown her meaninglessness in booze asking: ‘Is that all there is?’ rather than remembering the blood of Christ, whom she once called, “Lord?” Why does she betray her vow to her husband and to her ‘Lord?’

     1 Corinthians 11

     3 But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God.

    11 Nevertheless, in the Lord woman is not independent of man nor man of woman; 12 for as woman was made from man, so man is now born of woman. And all things are from God.

    Here is your relationship of a man and his wife; the living and loving relationship of Christ Jesus and His family.

    Yet do you, dearly beloved, remember the significance of this “family relationship?”

    Ephesians 5:31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. 33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

    And remembering the three-strand relationship of husband and wife in Christ, we return to the symbolism of of this great mystery in which we share (returning to First Corinthians 11):

    23 For I received from the Lord what I also delivered to you, that the Lord Jesus on the night when he was betrayed took bread, 24 and when he had given thanks, he broke it, and said,

    “This is my body which is for you. Do this in remembrance of me.”

    25 In the same way also he took the cup, after supper, saying,

    “This cup is the new covenant in my blood. Do this, as often as you drink it, in remembrance of me.”

    26 For as often as you eat this bread and drink the cup, you proclaim the Lord’s death until he comes.
    27 Whoever, therefore, eats the bread or drinks the cup of the Lord in an unworthy manner will be guilty concerning the body and blood of the Lord. 28 Let a person examine himself, then, and so eat of the bread and drink of the cup. 29 For anyone who eats and drinks without discerning the body eats and drinks judgment on himself.

    When in our homes our children have seen and have lived in the instruction of holy scripture, which by our New Covenant in Christ Jesus sets us aside from the world for the glory of God; when in our christian homes our christian children have seen their christian fathers and their christian mothers live first in their meaning and purpose to the LORD; when husband and wife live as one to each other, forsaking ALL others (worldly work friends, worldly neighbors, the worldly influencers of unsaved family); when WE the prodigal children who claim Jesus as Lord do actually desire obedience first to HIS purpose and meaning in our lives: then our children, seeing Christ in us will no longer ask: “Is that all there is?”

    John 12:26 If anyone serves me, he must follow me; and where I am, there will my servant be also. If anyone serves me, the Father will honor him.

    John 13:34 A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another.

    John 14:6 Jesus said to him, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.

    John 15:26 “But when the Helper comes, whom I will send to you from the Father, the Spirit of truth, who proceeds from the Father, he will bear witness about me.

    John 18:37 Then Pilate said to him, “So you are a king?” Jesus answered, “You say that I am a king.
    For this purpose I was born and for this purpose I have come into the world—to bear witness to the truth. Everyone who is of the truth listens to my voice.”

    • What is God’s purpose for you, beloved husband & father? 
    • What is the Lord’s purpose for you, devoted wife & mother?
    • What is the Father’s purpose for you, blessed child of God, honoring your Christ-like parents?

    Pray in the spirit and let the light of our Lord Jesus Christ shine into the caverns of your broken heart.

    1 Corinthians 2:

    9 But, as it is written,

    “What no eye has seen, nor ear heard,
    nor the heart of man imagined,
    what God has prepared for those who love him”—

    10 these things God has revealed to us through the Spirit. For the Spirit searches everything, even the depths of God.

    11 For who knows a person’s thoughts except the spirit of that person, which is in him? So also no one comprehends the thoughts of God except the Spirit of God.

    12 Now we have received not the spirit of the world, but the Spirit who is from God, that we might understand the things freely given us by God.

    Think about these things.

    Pray also for me.

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