Tag: family

  • Is that all there is (for my family)?

    Is that all there is (for my family)?

    One day your ‘teen’ or ‘twenty’ reveals first to their friends and then to a parent: I’m ‘in a relationship,’ or I’m gay or I’m a vegan or I’m a witch or I’m quitting school or I’m pregnant or I’m getting an abortion or… or… any one of a number of things YOU as their parent had hoped they would not do.

    “WHY,” you ask?

    I don’t believe in God. I can do whatever I want. I am free. You can’t stop me. So what? Can’t I do whatever I like?

    Yet the “Single Mom,” (a great lie in itself) is crushed that the grown child of her womb has said, ‘I can do what I want’, when she had hoped for better.

    Is there no hope (for a ‘single mom’) who has defined the value of her life by what she has done for her children? Is that all there is?

    A man comes home and his wife is sitting at the table drinking with friends… again. It seems her friends are her drinking friends, just as her family is her party and always having a ball.

    “You have to move on,” she says. She was too drunk to even wonder, “Is that all there is?” She was escaped far enough to fantasize, “I’ll keep on dancing… and break out more booze.” And I’ll have a ball, if that’s all there is.

    An important man, once held high in the eyes of men and of women and of his family… a man defined by his job, a man defined by his work, a man defined by what he does and how much money he makes – a man once well respected loses his job… and his importance.

    The man mixed with the rich and socialized with the famous. He lived for his work… and then his work was gone and he asks: Is that all there is?

    “Is that all there is,” he asks? “Who am I now?”

    The words of another lyricist describe his defeat:

    There’s a man just to her right
    Black suit and a bright red tie
    Too ashamed to tell his wife
    He’s out of work, He’s buying time.

    All those people going somewhere
    Why have I never cared?

    ALL in a search for meaning! ALL asking: “Is anybody out there? Does anybody care?”

    ALL wondering, ‘What is the meaning of MY life?’

    It’s a paradox of meaninglessness, isn’t it?

    We ask, “What is the meaning of my life?”   Who are we asking?

    And whose soul does touch our own that we would share in life’s meaning?

    Meaning of our SELF must be defined in our relationships to OTHERS.

    Meaning of our SOUL, so alone and so broken is already defined by the LORD God our creator. He IS a God of relationship. He IS the Son of Sacrifice. He IS the Spirit of personal relationship to an overflowing consecrated purpose of His immeasurable love for you.

    A child defines their life by the latest discovery of their ‘friends.’ A mom defines her meaning by her children. A man defines his meaning by his work. And like the generations before, their child – a growing up child – searches for the same answers never found by their mother and by their father. They all ask the age-old question: Is that all there is?

    And in an instant, one once rooted in scripture remembers:

    All is vanity.

     Second of 3-part series: To be continued tomorrow

  • PK’s, EK’s, DK’s: Our kids; God’s kids – 2

    PK’s, EK’s, DK’s: Our kids; God’s kids – 2

    What does the Lord require of the leaders of His church?

    My little children, I am writing these things to you so that you may not sin. – from the First Letter of John 2:1

    Beloved, I urge you as sojourners and exiles to abstain from the passions of the flesh, which wage war against your soul. – from the First Letter of Simon Peter 2:11

    Train up a child in the way he should go,
    Even when he is old he will not depart from it. – Proverbs 22:6

    Suppose for a moment, that Jesus had been married (or living in sin as some heretics would claim). Who would we look to for example for a woman? Jesus’ wife! A woman of the flesh, imperfect though joined to our Lord. Again, NOT God’s plan.

    And suppose, further, that Jesus and a wife of the flesh had children in the way all of us have children. To whom would the world and the church look to for establishing and building Jesus’ MEGA-church to go into all the world? Again, in the traditions of ancestry: the PREACHER’S KID. Some responsibility, right? Yet in His omniscient wisdom, God the Father had no such plan.

    Jesus was not married. Jesus had no children of the flesh (as we are born as sons of a sinful man and of a sinful woman born of a sinful mother and father in adam).

    Peter, however, was married. As was the custom, there may have been sons and daughters of Mister and Missus Simon Peter: Preacher’s Kids. Yet we do not hear of these. For that matter, we hear very little about the wives of the Apostles, including Peter’s wife whose mother Jesus healed.

    We hear little of the women of the church (only occasionally of a mother or sister of the church noted for her humble service and faithfulness). For that matter, we hear little of Simon Peter, Christ-appointed successor to unify the Apostles in the Gospel through the Holy Spirit. Without Peter’s approval, without Jesus’ brother James’ approval and without the approval of the risen Christ Himself and the Holy Spirit, Paul (Saul of Tarsus) would not have been preaching to the church and writing letters to the churches, as did the other Apostles.

    Without the leadership of the Spirit, Paul could not have instructed Timothy in the leadership of the church as the Gospel takes root in the adopted souls of the generations.

    Yet understand that some of Paul’s instructions for the church are cultural, while other instructions of leadership point to the most important character of the leadership and members of the body of Christ we call ‘the church’ or the ‘saints.’

    1 Timothy 1
    English Standard Version (ESV)

     … the law is not laid down for the just but for the lawless and disobedient, for the ungodly and sinners, for the unholy and profane, for those who strike their fathers and mothers, for murderers, the sexually immoral, men who practice homosexuality, enslavers, liars, perjurers, and whatever else is contrary to sound doctrine, in accordance with the gospel of the glory of the blessed God with which I have been entrusted.

    PK fishAgainst this contrast of sin and worldliness, Paul lays out examples of leadership and the character REQUIRED of leaders of the church under constant scrutiny by the congregation they lead; a pastor, elder, bishop or deacon watched closely by a world they would lead to Christ.

    Just imagine the lives of Peter’s kids or any Preacher’s Kids in the probing eyes of others as the child of witnesses for the Lord who said, “I will make you fishers of men.”

    We learned in Acts of the Apostles that Peter and the Disciples and appointed Deacons were first and foremost servants of the church and the body of believers. By the instructions of Christ our Lord they did not lord it over one another.

    Our Lord, Christ Jesus does not suggest any arch-Apostle or Bishop over bishops. We are instructed to love and serve one another, even as Christ humbled Himself to serve sinful man.

    Yet Paul emphasizes Christ-like requirements in the leaders of Christ’s church:

     1 Timothy 3

    Therefore an overseer [episkopos or Bishop] must be above reproach,

    the husband of one wife, [Note that an unmarried man would NOT qualify; nor a woman: married or unmarried]

    sober-minded, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach,

    • not a drunkard,
    • not violent but gentle,
    • not quarrelsome,
    • not a lover of money. [Preachers of prosperity wouldn’t qualify.]
    • He must manage his own household well…

    [The KJV states: ‘ruleth well his own house.’  We don’t cherish the idea of even a pastor ruling over us, do we?

    However as prerequisite he must rule also over his wife and his children with the love and charity of Christ Jesus. Any leader of Christ’s church must rule over people, priorities, time and money with maturity and discernment of the Spirit.]

    • … with all dignity keeping his children submissive, [Lookout, P.K’s: it means obedience.]

    for if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God’s church?

    [An excellent point of the Apostle Paul.

    Do you want a man without such charitable rule over those under his care at home to have authority over your church?

    For that matter, should a ‘father’ with no children instruct you and your wife and your children how to live and witness as a family in Christ Jesus? {Controversial, in these later last centuries of a broken church body.}]

    Paul continues:

    He must not be a recent convert, or he may become puffed up with conceit and fall into the condemnation of the devil.  Moreover, he must be well thought of by outsiders, so that he may not fall into disgrace, into a snare of the devil.

    Quite a list for a leader of the church, is it not?

    Can any Bishop or Elder of the church live up to this perfection without some failing of flesh? Certainly not in his own will; yet it is the standard to which our leaders are held accountable. Certainly the Preacher’s wife and Preacher’s Kids are also viewed in the spotlight of this higher standard. May God help them.

    To this Paul adds requirements for Deacons:

    Deacons likewise must be dignified,

    They must hold the mystery of the faith with a clear conscience.  And let them also be tested first; then let them serve as deacons if they prove themselves blameless.

    And now Paul reiterates requirements for wives of Deacons and requirements for Deacons the same as the high standard for Pastors and for Elders:

    11 Their wives likewise must be dignified, not slanderers, but sober-minded, faithful in all things.

    Let deacons each be the husband of one wife, managing their children and their own households well.

    For those who serve well as deacons gain a good standing for themselves and also great confidence in the faith that is in Christ Jesus.

    To be continued… 

  • PK’s, EK’s, DK’s: Our kids; God’s kids

    PK’s, EK’s, DK’s: Our kids; God’s kids

    The purpose of my instruction is that all believers would be filled with love that comes from a pure heart, a clear conscience, and genuine faith.  – 1 Timothy 1:5 NLT

    If you haven’t guessed, our focus is on ‘Preacher’s Kid’s, Elder’s Kids and Deacon’s kids and the focus of scripture is Paul’s letter to Timothy, Paul’s son in the faith and pastor of a church. So as to not get entangled in particular setting and certain persons, here it is in part.

    1 Timothy 1

    Paul, an apostle of Christ Jesus by command of God our Savior and of Christ Jesus our hope…

    To Timothy, my true child in the faith: Grace, mercy, and peace from God the Father and Christ Jesus our Lord.

    To begin, note Paul’s greeting to this preacher’s kid (of a sort). Note Paul’s endearment of Timothy as not only his colleague in the faith who happens to be the pastor of an important church, but his public building up to the congregation (or gathering of his church) of Timothy as: “my true child in the faith.” Although Timothy was not a biological child of Paul, certainly the church would acknowledge him as a disciple of the Apostle, just as in an earlier time the Prophet Elisha would have been known as a disciple of the Prophet Elijah.

    The church would be watching this ‘preacher’s kid’ to see how he would get about when the preacher was no longer present. He would soon be as a Joshua after Moses in leading the church through the difficult territory of the place of faith after the Apostles were martyred for Christ Jesus.

    Paul continues:

    I urged you… to … remain … so that you may charge certain persons not to teach any different doctrine,  nor to devote themselves to myths… rather than the stewardship from God that is by faith.

    5 The aim of our charge is love that issues from a pure heart and a good conscience and a sincere faith.

    Certain persons, by swerving from these, have wandered away into vain discussion,  desiring to be teachers … without understanding either what they are saying or the things about which they make confident assertions.

    Paul, by this introduction to the church, sets up a structure of leadership and accountability for the leaders chosen by the church. We have many names for these (in our different traditions): Pastor, Reverend, Rector, Father, Bishop, Brother, Elder, Deacon, Minister. 

    Although Paul, Peter, James, leader of the church of Jerusalem in the first century and John, only surviving Apostle to the churches who though not martyred was persecuted, tortured and exiled – although the Preachers of the early church entrusted the Gospel into the hearts of faithful disciples of their teaching; these prescribed neither hierarchy nor anarchy of committee for the direction of the church.

    Rather, the Apostles and early leaders of the church agreed in the Spirit to continue in preaching Christ crucified, died, resurrected in the body and present in the Spirit for continuation of the Gospel to all the ends of the earth. It is never: Peter’s church or Paul’s church, Apollos’ teachings or John’s churches, John Mark’s writings or Timothy’s preaching.

    For no leader or over-seer is of ANY importance in the light of the Gospel of Christ Jesus.

    The church is no longer – in the sense of the Jews being the chosen family of God through Abraham, Isaac, Joseph, Moses, David (and oh, did I mention Jacob, who God renamed: Israel?) – the congregation or gathering of the believers of God to worship is no longer a family in the sense of genealogy and ancestry; but a holy family in the true relational sense of being part of the household of God the Father and a brother of the Son of God, King and heir of the Throne of Glory, of which He IS a part, along with the Father and the Holy Spirit.

    Neither is the church to regard a holy family of Jesus in the worship of earthly ancestry. Worship the LORD only in the light of the Gospel of Christ Jesus, who together with the Father and the HOLY Spirit is glorified. No angel, no departed saint and no ancestry of example of faith is worthy of the worship deserved ONLY by God Incarnate, in the Person of Christ Jesus.

    In a true sense of our family connected by the grace of Christ Jesus and the gospel of our certain hope by faith in the resurrection and our own eternal life, we are children living in witness of the Living God, a preaching member of the Royal Household of our Heavenly King, Christ Jesus, who IS and will return to this temporal earth once more in victory over sin and death.

     To be continued… (Saturday, 28 June, 2014, God-willing)