Tag: family

  • Three Widows & a Widower

    Three Widows & a Widower

    Fifteen years ago I became a widower. (We had been married more than two decades.) I know personally the loss of the widow (& widower).

    Jesus spoke of three widows:

    1. one, in a parable on the persistence of prayer to God
    2. one, of an unnamed widow who sacrificed only two mites to God at the Temple (leptons or half-farthing, worth less than half of one cent)
    3. and one, a familiar widow from scripture.

    Jesus’ illustrations were not so much about what Christ followers must do for widows.

    Jesus uses these widows to demonstrate faith to us.

    Jesus’ rebuke here is how God used a faithful widow who was NOT part of the family of God (Israel). He spoke to the people of his own hometown, Nazareth, were Jesus was rejected.

    Let the church remember our widows and widowers, that Christ might not need to site the faith of an unbeliever to christians.

    Luke 4:25 But in truth, I tell you, there were many widows in Israel in the days of Elijah, when the heavens were shut up three years and six months, and a great famine came over all the land, 26 and Elijah was sent to none of them but only to Zarephath, in the land of Sidon, to a woman who was a widow.

    1 Kings 17

    English Standard Version (ESV)

    The Widow of Zarephath

    8 Then the word of the Lord came to him, 9 “Arise, go to Zarephath, which belongs to Sidon, and dwell there. Behold, I have commanded a widow there to feed you.” 10 So he arose and went to Zarephath.

    And when he came to the gate of the city, behold, a widow was there gathering sticks.

    Suppose you could only gather sticks to cook some food (what little they had) during a drought. Enter the Prophet of God, Elijah.

    And he called to her and said, “Bring me a little water in a vessel, that I may drink.”

    The widow humbly obeys, as she would her deceased husband or any man of authority.

    11 And as she was going to bring it, he called to her and said, “Bring me a morsel of bread in your hand.”

    Now this destitute woman challenges the bold request of this strange man.

    12 And she said, “As the Lord your God lives, I have nothing baked, only a handful of flour in a jar and a little oil in a jug. And now I am gathering a couple of sticks that I may go in and prepare it for myself and my son, that we may eat it and die.”

    13 And Elijah said to her, “Do not fear; go and do as you have said…

    (‘Good. I’ll be done with this bothersome stranger,’ she must have thought, ‘and return to my misery.’)

    The widow’s son is obviously unable to gather firewood, perhaps because he is only a boy in need of everything (as children must depend on father and mother for everything).

    Yet the man of God continues:

    … But first make me a little cake of it and bring it to me, and afterward make something for yourself and your son.

    14 For thus says the Lord, the God of Israel, ‘The jar of flour shall not be spent, and the jug of oil shall not be empty, until the day that the Lord sends rain upon the earth.’”

    For thus says the Lord…

    A command to be obeyed (only IF the man is a true Prophet of the Lord God of Israel).

    15 And she went and did as Elijah said.

    Time passes, but the provision of God does not.

    And she and he and her household ate for many days. 16 The jar of flour was not spent, neither did the jug of oil become empty, according to the word of the Lord that he spoke by Elijah.

    More time passes.

    17 After this the son of the woman, the mistress of the house, became ill. And his illness was so severe that there was no breath left in him. 18 And she said to Elijah, “What have you against me, O man of God?

    Once more the woman is bold because God has taken the life of her son.

    She continues:

    You have come to me to bring my sin to remembrance and to cause the death of my son!”

    How inexplicable had been the death of his father to the widow’s young son.

    • How great the loss of a mother or father to a young child.

    Yet with the help of the Prophet, she has raised her son through her grief; and before her grief is ended her son also dies.

    • How tragic to lose your husband.
    • How sorrowful to lose your wife.
    • How unexpected and hopeless is the untimely death of your own child: the flesh and blood of you own womb; the joy of your own seed!

    19 And he said to her, “Give me your son.”

    And he took him from her arms and carried him up into the upper chamber where he lodged, and laid him on his own bed. 20 And he cried to the Lord, “O Lord my God, have you brought calamity even upon the widow with whom I sojourn, by killing her son?”

    Elijah is crying out to the Lord in prayer. The Man of God is pleading for the life of this son even as his mother has plead to the Man of God in her bold faith.

    21 Then he stretched himself upon the child three times and cried to the Lord, “O Lord my God, let this child’s life come into him again.”

    22 And the Lord listened to the voice of Elijah. And the life of the child came into him again, and he revived. 23 And Elijah took the child and brought him down from the upper chamber into the house and delivered him to his mother.

    And Elijah said, “See, your son lives.”

    24 And the woman said to Elijah, “Now I know that you are a man of God, and that the word of the Lord in your mouth is truth.”

    RESURRECTION! Bodily resurrection and the resurrection of the soul: both are possible! Both have been witnessed. Both require great faith, as the widow has shown.

    The widow of Zarephath had said of Elijah: “Now I know that you are a man of God;” however before she knew it, she had great faith.

    Along comes Jesus to His neighbors in Nazareth and it seems that (like many of us) that they have very little faith.

    IF a man came to you and asked for your last morsel of bread, would you give it even to Jesus?

    Matthew 25:

    35 For I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, I was a stranger and you welcomed me…

     

    42 For I was hungry and you gave me no food,

    I was thirsty and you gave me no drink,

    43 I was a stranger and you did not welcome me,

    naked and you did not clothe me,

    sick and in prison and you did not visit me.’

     

    44 Then they also will answer, saying, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry or thirsty or a stranger or naked or sick or in prison, and did not minister to you?’

    45 Then he will answer them, saying, ‘Truly, I say to you, as you did not do it to one of the least of these, you did not do it to me.’

    46 And these will go away into eternal punishment, but the righteous into eternal.

    Have you remembered the widows?

    The widowers?

    Those dejected by the trials of this earthly life?

    Perhaps you are gathering your last sticks for the hopeless situation of your family and along comes one asking you for your last morsel of bread.

    How will you answer?

    Will you have faith?

     

  • Remember the Widows

    Remember the Widows

    1 Timothy 5:5  She who is truly a widow, left all alone, has set her hope on God and continues in supplications and prayers night and day…

    In only a century since the millennia of the Bible, relationships of the family have been overturned. All older than sixteen require automobiles and all older than sixty-six need to be put away in a senior center. The sixteen-year old and the sixty-six year old work side-by-side; one to get ahead and the other to get by.

    As no honor is given to marriage, as no honor is given to the husband and as no honor is given to the grandparents; no consideration is given to the relationships relished by our aging widows and widowers of our churches.

    1 Timothy 5:1 Do not rebuke an older man but encourage him as you would a father, younger men as brothers,2 older women as mothers, younger women as sisters, in all purity. 3 Honor widows who are truly widows.

    Christ Jesus would gently remind the church of those among us who live in poverty of relationship with the family, including the family of God, the church.

    Exodus 22:22 “You must not exploit a widow or an orphan.

    Why not?

    What is God’s will? Has social security not taken care of our widows and widowers? Do they not have pensions of their own saved to keep them in their old age?

    Have we not taken care of the orphans and children of the divorced and divorced ‘single moms’ through welfare of our government?

    Is this the attitude of the world?

    OR should this be the attitude of ‘Christ followers’, the church?

    Again, the several Biblical examples of widows and orphans are not directed only to the fatherless, but to those in need.

    To be continued…

  • Distracted from Relationship

    Distracted from Relationship

    What is the one thing that makes Christianity different from every other religion?

    In a word: Relationship.

    We have a relationship with the Living God through Christ Jesus our Lord.

    What is the one thing making Christians look like everyone else in this world?

    In a convicting word: LACK of Relationship.

    Any look at Jesus’ incarnate life will reveal relationships of authentic love. It is this same authentic love christians have lost in our marriages, families, friendships, churches and distracted contact with unbelievers and believers alike for whom we sacrifice no time and show little of Christ’s love.

    Look at the timeline of the incarnate life of Jesus and you will see varied relationships: all perfect, all demonstrating love in the context of each precious moment for those receptive to God’s love.

    Jesus was NOT distracted from His relationships of love by the day-to-day distractions of life around Him.

    • He had compassion for the crowds.
    • He showed love for His Disciples (along with much patience).
    • He showed love and respect for His earthly parents.
    • He showed kindness to strangers.
    • He loved and even praised His enemies.
    • He served those He loved with deep humility.
    • He was not distracted ever from His relationship with God our Father and the relationship of prayer to seek God’s will first.

    • Jesus would NOT be distracted from the relationships of love. 

    Mark 3

    English Standard Version (ESV)

    13 And he went up on the mountain and called to him those whom he desired, and they came to him.14 And he appointed twelve (whom he also named apostles) so that they might be with him and he might send them out to preach 15 and have authority to cast out demons.

    20 Then he went home, and the crowd gathered again, so that they could not even eat. 21 And when his family heard it, they went out to seize him, for they were saying, “He is out of his mind.”

    31 And his mother and his brothers came, and standing outside they sent to him and called him.32 And a crowd was sitting around him, and they said to him, “Your mother and your brothers are outside, seeking you.” 33 And he answered them, “Who are my mother and my brothers?” 34 And looking about at those who sat around him, he said, “Here are my mother and my brothers!

    35 For whoever does the will of God, he is my brother and sister and mother.”

    We know that Jesus began His earthly ministry when He was led into the wilderness by the Holy Spirit for forty days. We know that Mary, mother of Jesus, knows the truth that as a virgin Jesus was conceived in her womb by God!

    We know that after His resurrection that his brother, James, becomes leader of the church at Jerusalem, writes a letter to the church instructing us how to live our faith, and is eventually martyred for his faith in Jesus, the Christ promised by God.

    What has Jesus done here in fulfilling His teaching and healing ministries in this snapshot of a day in time? He has shown that He will not be distracted by even family who would stand in the way of God’s purposes.

    Throughout His journeys through Galilee, Judea, Samaria and other places, towns and hillsides; Jesus took time to reach out to individuals.

    Jesus touched individual souls with His relationship of love.

    Have you ever considered that when Jesus said:  “Here are my mother and my brothers! For whoever does the will of God, he is my brother and sister and mother;” that He has included YOU?

    Christ Jesus established the church. He has just confirmed His church family(first disciples, then including others).

    Christ Jesus has established the close loving relationships of family between ALL who will do ‘the will of God.’

    How many times did Jesus have to take one or all of the Disciples aside and keep them from being distracted by other things than the will of God?

    Mark 8:31 And he began to teach them that the Son of Man must suffer many things and be rejected by the elders and the chief priests and the scribes and be killed, and after three days rise again. 32 And he said this plainly. And Peter took him aside and began to rebuke him. 33 But turning and seeing his disciples, he rebuked Peter and said, “Get behind me, Satan! For you are not setting your mind on the things of God, but on the things of man.”

    Mark 10:13 And they were bringing children to him that he might touch them, and the disciples rebuked them.14 But when Jesus saw it, he was indignant and said to them, “Let the children come to me; do not hinder them, for to such belongs the kingdom of God.

    35 And James and John, the sons of Zebedee, came up to him and said to him, “Teacher, we want you to do for us whatever we ask of you.” 36 And he said to them, “What do you want me to do for you?”37 And they said to him, “Grant us to sit, one at your right hand and one at your left, in your glory.”38 Jesus said to them, “You do not know what you are asking…

    Peter, James and John, the three Disciples who witnessed first hand Jesus’ transfiguration, as well as Moses and Elijah, ALL had to be rebuked by Jesus.

    Don’t be distracted by what the world would do.

    Pray to God our Father.

    May His will be done; on earth, as it is in heaven.

    Just ask.

    How are we doing in the love of our relationships, church?

    Are we distracted?

    John 13:34 A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you,

    you also are to love one another.

    35 By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.”