Tag: family

  • Who are my brothers?

    Who are my brothers?

    Family! Gotta love ’em

    I have two brothers and a sister, not to mention other challenging family members who generally disagree with my considered path which seldom offers the least resistance. Lately we’ve had some ‘family disagreements.’ Has that ever happened with you?

    We’re all hard to convince on important points of life, so in general most of us just go about our own way until someone comes to us mentioning that your brother or your mother (or father or cousin) wants to see you.

    What could be so important? Interruptions by brothers or family happen to all.

    Perhaps you recall an incident like this mentioned in a couple of the Gospels about Jesus. When I first read of it, I thought that Jesus seemed rude to ignore His family members. Now, after many such interruptions of my own agenda by family members I’m not certain that ‘rude’ is the best description, though I’ll bet my family frequently thinks I’m rude.

    Matthew 12:46-48 ESV

    While he was still speaking to the people, behold, his mother and his brothers stood outside, asking to speak to him. But he replied to the man who told him,

    “Who is my mother, and who are my brothers?”

    Jesus had been teaching and had had a rough day. (More about that later.)

    Doesn’t it always seem like your brother or a family member shows up with an issue when you are busiest?

    Mark 3:31-34 BSB

    Continuing just a bit further in the same story as recorded by Mark:

    Then Jesus’ mother and brothers came and stood outside. They sent someone in to summon Him, and a crowd was sitting around Him. “Look,” He was told, “Your mother and brothers are outside, asking for You.”

    But Jesus replied, “Who are My mother and My brothers?”

    Looking at those seated in a circle around Him, He said, “Here are My mother and My brothers!

    Jesus’ Brothers Before & After the Resurrection

    We’ll visit the prior scenes and conclusion later, but moving ahead in our story here, authorities doubting the true identity of the Messiah ask:

    Is not this the carpenter’s son?

    Is not his mother called Mary?

    And are not his brothers James and Joseph and Simon and Judas? – Matthew 13:55


    They mention Jesus’ sisters, question His wise teaching and mighty miracles and they even took offense to him.

    Once again Jesus makes a seemingly disrespectful comment about his community and family.

    “A prophet is not without honor except in his hometown and in his own household.” – Matthew 13:57b

    The world around Him is trying to disrespect the Lord, associating Him first to His brothers and sisters and mother. Have you ever experience that?

    Later John would reveal something of Jesus’ brothers and others who had witnessed the Lord’s teachings and healings. Even Jesus’ own brothers (half-brothers, really) challenged Jesus:

    “… If you do these things, show yourself to the world.” – John 7:4b

    Then John observes,

    For not even his brothers believed in him. John 7:5


    After Jesus’s resurrection and fifty days of witness on earth, observe Jesus’ brothers at Pentecost. The brothers (and sisters) of Jesus had proof. They then lived lives of witness along with the Apostles, but at first they had no faith.

    Acts 1:14

    All these with one accord were devoting themselves to prayer, together with the women and Mary the mother of Jesus, and his brothers [adelphoi may refer either to men or to both men and women who are siblings].


    True Brothers

    Brothers in a larger sense are ones connected to you closely, ones united by family and life and circumstance.

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    Some won’t change even if the Lord appears

    Some believed Jesus and they followed. He called these disciples brothers, even the many faithful who followed our Lord in addition to the Twelve. Yet looking back at Jesus’ day leading up to His half-brothers and mother beckoning the Lord from His teaching, we see the importance of His work.


    Let’s trace back the Lord’s teaching of the day He was interrupted by family.

    Matthew 12:

    46 While he was still speaking to the people, behold, his mother and his brothers stood outside, asking to speak to him.


    • 43 “When the unclean spirit has gone out of a person, it passes through waterless places seeking rest, but finds none… and the last state of that person is worse than the first. So also will it be with this evil generation.”
    • 42 The queen of the South will rise up at the judgment with this generation and condemn it, for she came from the ends of the earth to hear the wisdom of Solomon, and behold, something greater than Solomon is here.
    • 41 The men of Nineveh will rise up at the judgment with this generation and condemn it, for they repented at the preaching of Jonah, and behold, something greater than Jonah is here.
    • 34 You brood of vipers! How can you speak good, when you are evil? For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks… 36 I tell you, on the day of judgment people will give account for every careless word they speak, 37 for by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.”
    • 28 But if it is by the Spirit of God that I cast out demons, then the kingdom of God has come upon you.
    • 22 Then a demon-oppressed man who was blind and mute was brought to him, and he healed him, so that the man spoke and saw. 23 And all the people were amazed, and said, “Can this be the Son of David?” 24 But when the Pharisees heard it, they said, “It is only by Beelzebul, the prince of demons, that this man casts out demons.”

    It had all started with Jesus doing good: powerful healings. Jesus proved to eyes which would not see and ears that refused to hear: He IS the Son of Man, the Messiah!

    Jesus healed a man with a withered hand on the Sabbath.

    14 But the Pharisees went out and conspired against him, how to destroy him…

    15 Jesus, aware of this, withdrew from there. And many followed him, and he healed them all 16 and ordered them not to make him known.


    Now moving forward once more to hearing Jesus’ question, “Who are my brothers…?”

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    49 And stretching out his hand toward his disciples, he said, “Here are my mother and my brothers! 50 For whoever does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother.”


    Do you have a brother closer than those of your own blood?

    By the Blood and Sacrifice of Christ Jesus for our sins, we are redeemed into the family of God our Father.

    As beloved sons, beloved daughters, co-heirs of our same eternal inheritance in Christ, are these not our nearest brothers and our dearest sisters?

    Who is your brother, your sister, dearly beloved one of the Lord?

    Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ invites us into His Own Royal Family of the Most High! Even unsaved family and loved ones may join the Lord. They may by believing join our true brothers?

    Won’t you allow the Lord to speak into your life? For like in this story, He will have a place for you always at the time of His joyous return.


    Pray for our dear family in Christ, beloved. Pray also for me.

  • Imperfect Family

    Imperfect Family

    The Son of Man – an imperfect family man

    Have you ever thought of Jesus as an imperfect ‘family man?’

    ‘What?’ you may react! God Incarnate in the Person of Jesus imperfect as a ‘family man?’ I thought Jesus is supposed to be God the Father’s Perfect Human (Son of Man) example to each of us.

    John 2

    an imperfect family man, Jesus at a wedding feast in Cana
    an imperfect family man, Jesus at a wedding feast in Cana

    there was a wedding at Cana in Galilee, and the mother of Jesus was there. Jesus also was invited to the wedding with his disciples.When the wine ran out, the mother of Jesus said to him, “They have no wine.” 4 And Jesus said to her, “Woman, what does this have to do with me? My hour has not yet come.” her, “Woman, what does this have to do with me? My hour has not yet come.” 

    He was known as a son of the deceased Joseph of Nazareth and his widow Mary, who raised His younger brothers at home.  Jesus was not a married man who could invite His friends over to His house. His Disciples met at Peter’s house, feasted in the homes of others or even gathered in fields on hillsides or park-like olive groves. Jesus seemed always to be a guest and never the host.

    In many ways Jesus can NOT provide a perfect example for us in every life situation.

    As a husband, does any human experience of Jesus show you how you should behave toward your wife? (Of course Jesus was not married to a woman.) Jesus does not model the role or place for a woman.  This Son of Man who had no children didn’t write a book of how to deal with your teen’s technology or your terrible two’s tantrums.

    In a sense, Jesus was just like us in that He was imperfect as a family man.

    Jesus loved celebrating with loved ones. He had to choose which parties He would attend and the company with whom He would spend His measured mortal time. Jesus celebrated as a guest with those He loved.

    Luke 5:

    Jesus at the home of Matthew
    Jesus at the home of Matthew

    29 And Levi made him a great feast in his house, and there was a large company of tax collectors and others reclining at table with them. 30 And the Pharisees and their scribes grumbled at his disciples, saying, “Why do you eat and drink with tax collectors and sinners?” 31 And Jesus answered them, “Those who are well have no need of a physician, but those who are sick. 32 I have not come to call the righteous but sinners to repentance.”

    Mathew Levi had just left everything to follow Jesus! [v.28] What a wonderful reason to celebrate with a feast.

     

    Who should I spend Thanksgiving with?

    Jesus had to make difficult choices  in everyday life just like you and me. We cannot be everywhere and with everyone at once. (Neither could the Son of Man, until the pouring out of the Holy Spirit.)

    Our difficult relational choices require our time with a certain loved one instead of another beloved.

    You and I cannot spend Thanksgiving or Christmas, a certain wedding or obligatory funeral with all at once. My own choices for this upcoming week include situations that never fit into the ‘imperfect family life’ Jesus faced. (You or I need not detail reasons for exclusion of others from our time, but we all must make these relational decisions.) Here are a few questions I must answer now:

    • Should I have Thanksgiving dinner with my beloved wife?
    • Should I visit my beloved daughter?
    • Should I travel to see my aging Dad?
    • Should I find a way to visit my widowed Mother-in-Law?
    • How can I at least acknowledge my dear step-children in several different states?
    • How could I possibly see my brothers, sister and their families in so many different states?

    These are the kind of questions which confront each of us at times of celebration set aside for family. Unfortunately, the family of Jesus may not help us to find answers to these heart-felt questions.

     

    Why do I celebrate Thanksgiving?

    I could stay home with my wife, who is unable to travel this holiday.  I could drive to my dad’s or dine with my daughter. What’s so special about today? After all, can’t we eat turkey anywhere?

    Is Thanksgiving just another day off? Or an excuse to overeat and party with friends and family? Is it the day that launches our christmas buying frenzy? Perhaps Thanksgiving is all of that and more.

    In one moment of forgotten selfishness, we may give our time or food to others, family or even the hungry. Yet one purpose of Thanksgiving may still be lost on most of us.

    If we have not thanked God for our many blessings, no act of charity will outweigh the bounty of our greed.

     

    Only — the righteous give thanks to Thy name,

    The upright do dwell with Thy presence!

    Psalm 140:13 YLT

    It was the Lord who blessed me with a warm place to live and put food on my table when I was homeless and without work. By mercy of what I did not deserve, Christ shared with me from the overflowing bounty of the Table of the King of Kings.

    Thanks be to God for all before us on the day of this Thanksgiving feast and every other day.

    Psalm 107

    Oh, give thanks to the LORD, for He is good!

    Oh, that men would give thanks to the LORD for His goodness,
    And for His wonderful works to the children of men!

    For He satisfies the longing soul,
    And fills the hungry soul with goodness.

    Happy Thanksgiving, beloved.

    May the LORD of all creation fill your table with His bounty, your soul with His great mercy, and your days with great grace though His only Son, our Lord, Jesus Christ.

    Amen.

    Roger Harned

  • Interrupting Jesus 2 – gift for a bride & groom

    Interrupting Jesus 2 – gift for a bride & groom

    “Woman, what does this have to do with me? My hour has not yet come.” John 2:4

    A young Jewish man from an insignificant town of Nazareth in Roman occupied Galilee, though only thirty years old, begins to gain a following. He is unmarried and head of his family, consisting of a widowed mother and younger brothers. Disciples of this young likable rabbi, who had worked as a carpenter in his deceased father’s shop, joined Jesus at a nearby wedding in Cana.

    Jesus had just begun to call disciples (or followers of a Rabbi/teacher) for His three-year earthly and eternal mission. A righteous man in everyone’s eyes, young Jesus is now called to a mission worthy of His Name.

    John 1:

    49 Nathanael answered him,“Rabbi, you are the Son of God! You are the King of Israel!”

    Of course, Jesus’ mother knew well the divinity of Jesus. Mary knew from before conception that God alone was His Father!

    In the great traditions of Jewish hospitality and celebration of the occasions and milestones of this earthly life, Jesus and His family (mother and brothers) accept the invitation to the wedding of a friend. Jesus and his family are guests just having a good time at this celebration. In addition to His family, Jesus had invited His new followers as well. Cana is a nearby small town. It was just a joyous, typical wedding celebration.

    When the wine ran out, the mother of Jesus said to him, “They have no wine.”And Jesus said to her, “Woman, what does this have to do with me? My hour has not yet come.” His mother said to the servants, “Do whatever he tells you.”

    The wedding, of course, is all about celebration. It is all about the joining of the bride and the groom in holy matrimony, a man and a woman pledged to each other for life. A father of the bride gives his beloved daughter to a man to have as his wife for the rest of their lives together. The father of the bride, the groomsmen, the hosts of the celebration are honored for their hosting of this grande wedding feast.

    BUT, the wine ran out early. (Too many people.) What now? Dishonor? The widow Mary suggests to her friends that her son could help?

    Jesus, his family and disciples are just invited guests. The celebration is not about them. In fact, it seems like just an interruption (a previous commitment, perhaps) to the beginning of our Lord’s mission. What to do?

    Now there were six stone water jars there for the Jewish rites of purification, each holding twenty or thirty gallons. Jesus said to the servants, “Fill the jars with water.” And they filled them up to the brim. And he said to them,“Now draw some out and take it to the master of the feast.” So they took it.When the master of the feast tasted the water now become wine, and did not know where it came from (though the servants who had drawn the water knew), the master of the feast called the bridegroom 10 and said to him, “Everyone serves the good wine first, and when people have drunk freely, then the poor wine. But you have kept the good wine until now.”

    11 This, the first of his signs, Jesus did at Cana in Galilee, and manifested his glory. And his disciples believed in him.

    He seemed liked just a popular guest at the local wedding. He seemed to be a teacher gaining followers (like John the Baptizer). He seems like just the kindest friend or son or brother you could ever meet. Yet by this interruption to Jesus’ work and daily life and travels, our Lord began ministering to the needs of those He loved in a most perfect way.

    To be continued… 

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