Tag: Matthew

  • Look For The Good In People! – by Darrell “Coach D” Andrews

    Look For The Good In People! – by Darrell “Coach D” Andrews

    Unlike any time in modern history, people seem to focus on and highlight—the bad in people. Politicians now run their entire campaigns not on what they can do to fix things, but the faults of their competition. Many of the reality shows are rated and considered a success, based upon the vitriol people can spew about each other. I recently watched a cooking reality show and the chefs were bashing one another! I certainly will not eat at their restaurants! Lastly, I remember being in a Church years ago where the Pastor used to make jokes about a certain denomination for their still way of worshiping God. They were not overly emotional in their workshop so he called it, “The Church of the Chosen Frozen.” Yes, this even happens in ministry.

    My message to you today is not long, but please, try to look for the good in people. It is so easy to fall into the world’s system of negative thinking and fault finding, but work to do what the scripture says in Mark 12:31, “Thou shall love thy neighbor as thyself. There is none other commandment greater than these.” Notice the scripture did not say you have an option to do this. It tells is that we “shall.”

    Fault finding most happens in families. In particular marriages. Some marriages grow cold and stale because someone is holding on to something to hate the other for. Something they said or did. The spouse can be doing 99 things right, but the other looks at the one wrong—and holds the other spouse hostage in their web of discontent. This is a tragedy when God tells us the opposite in Mark 12:31. This is why so many relationships end in divorce. Some parents do this to their kids, and kids to their parents. Some family members have not spoken in years due to faults they find in one another. A lifetime of disconnect, due to something they disagree with.

    Today, choose to go against the grain. Practice loving they neighbor as thy self, especially in our families. The world has given us enough hate to view on TV, lets not carry this into our personal life.

    Remember, the scripture tells us “Love never fails.”   Is it possible we are where we are today as a nation and world due to a lack of it?

     

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    Please pray for his work with families and communities and share your Christian Social Witness with your friends. – Roger

  • Intimacy of a Christian Friend

    Intimacy of a Christian Friend

    “Now you are my friends.”

    If there is anything I would commend to you, it is your value as my Christian friend.

    I have embraced the love of many throughout my life: family, my wife, our children, co-workers, neighbors, school-mates, team members,  club members, teachers, students, mentors, apprentices, bosses, employees, and many more.  I have included friends into parts of my life from each of these roles and relationships at various times, but none is so valuable as a Christian friend. But you, my beloved Christian friend, contribute more blessing than those who do not know Jesus Christ.

    “What is the difference between a true Christian friend and any other?  It is the intimacy of the love of Jesus Christ.

    Intimacy is valued only as a commodity by the worldly.  Intimacy is maligned to mean sexuality in a way that is not intimate at all.

    Where is the closeness of the relationships of family and friends of the world?  It is sadly lacking (for the most part), because we have so few friends we can trust who embrace the righteousness of Christ.

    Among the worldly, integrity of relationship is displaced by the hypocrisy of shallowness.

    (My indictment includes many shallow christians and all-too-often, my own timid relationship to Jesus Christ.)

    Who do you trust?  What friend will you lay your life down for?  What  time-tested faithfulness of your intimate friend  has such value in your life that you cannot live or die without this love?

    Intimate friends such as these… such as some of you… I have found ONLY within the intimacy of the church.

    My former wife (before the Lord took her) was part of these intimate relationships with our friends.  Our daughter has been part of the relationships with these intimate friends.  I have loved and do love many of you who were first part of a ministry, or small group, or Bible study, or the regular gathering of two or three in the Name of the Lord.

    I thank God for the intimacy of my friends who have seen to my needs in the most trying of times — you, my friends in Christ Jesus.

    Matthew 10: 16 “Look, I am sending you out as sheep among wolves. So be as shrewd as snakes and harmless as doves… 21 “A brother will betray his brother to death, a father will betray his own child, and children will rebel against their parents and cause them to be killed. 22 And all nations will hate you because you are my followers…

    35 ‘I have come to set a man against his father,
    a daughter against her mother,
    and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law.
    36     Your enemies will be right in your own household!’

    Jesus asked His twelve Apostles to go out and tell the world “the Kingdom of Heaven is near.” {v.6}

    His Twelve friends did what He asked.  

    Eleven would NOT betray Him.

    We need the intimacy of friends we can trust.  (Have you betrayed a beloved friend? Repent. Apologize. Return to our Lord.)

    True Christian friends have an intimacy of love for each other which resembles the love of Jesus Christ.  Your parents may not have it.  Your siblings and your cousins may not have it. Your spouse may not have it. Your children may have forgotten it. Those you work with and associate with may go about their obligatory relationships to you without ever sharing one word of compassionate empathy. And even your near friend, when self-interest steps in, may betray you to death.

    Christian friends obey Jesus as our Lord.

    John 15:

    12 This is my commandment: Love each other in the same way I have loved you.

    13 There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. 14 You are my friends if you do what I command. 15 I no longer call you slaves, because a master doesn’t confide in his slaves.

    Now you are my friends, since I have told you everything the Father told me.

    16 You didn’t choose me. I chose you. I appointed you to go and produce lasting fruit, so that the Father will give you whatever you ask for, using my name. 17 This is my command: Love each other.

    The World’s Hatred

    18 “If the world hates you, remember that it hated me first. 19 The world would love you as one of its own if you belonged to it, but you are no longer part of the world.

     

    Yes, dear friend, it is the intimate friend who knows the heart of his friend… the friend who shares in the same Spirit of the love of our Lord and Savior, Who laid down His Life for all of us.  It is our Christian friend who has done what our Lord commands:

    “Love each other.

    Any friend of Jesus is a friend of mine, beloved.

  • Happy are you…

    Happy are you…

    Happy Birthday.  Thanks.

    Happy Anniversary.  Thanks.

    Did you have a happy birthday?  … Hmmm… Quite a different question.

    By “Happy,” do you mean “BLESSED?”

    If that is your question, my answer is YES.

    Aren’t happiness and blessedness the same?   How does Jesus measure blessedness?

    Jesus Christ gives us an insight into blessedness and happiness you may not have considered or may hesitate to embrace.

    You will find Jesus’ measure of “blessed” the Beatitudes in two of the Gospels.

    We may see more of Jesus’ paradox of blessedness in the Young’s Literal Translation (or a contemporary rendering like The Message Bible):

    • Happy the poor

    • Happy those hungering now

    • Happy those weeping now

    • Happy are ye when men shall hate you, and when they shall separate you, and shall reproach, and shall cast forth your name as evil, for the Son of Man’s sake

    (In case you seek a little more “blessedness”) Mathew’s Good News adds a little more to the paradox than Luke:

    • `Happy the poor in spirit
    •  `Happy the mourning
    • `Happy the meek
    • `Happy those hungering and thirsting for righteousness
    •  `Happy the kind
    • `Happy the clean in heart
    • `Happy the peacemakers
    • `Happy those persecuted for righteousness’ sake
    • `Happy are ye whenever they may reproach you, and may persecute, and may say any evil thing against you falsely for my sake

    Jesus said to His disciples – His followers: “You are my friends if you do what I command.” – John 15:14

    Is Christ Jesus your friend?  (Take a look at His ‘To Do List’ for “Happiness.”)

    Blessed are we IF we DO these things.

    “And if you do not carry your own cross and follow me, you cannot be my disciple. – Luke 14:27

    Blessed are you: beloved brother, beloved sister in our Lord.

    Have a blessed day. :{)+