Tag: funeral

  • Resurrection Before Jesus

    Resurrection Before Jesus

    Jesus Raises a Widow’s Son

    Nain Galileenain mapLuke 7:11 Soon afterward he went to a town called Nain, and his disciples and a great crowd went with him.

    12 As he drew near to the gate of the town, behold, a man who had died was being carried out, the only son of his mother, and she was a widow, and a considerable crowd from the town was with her.

    (Recall that Jesus had told the people of Nazareth of Elijah being sent to a widow outside of Israel.)

    13 And when the Lord saw her, he had compassion on her and said to her, “Do not weep.” 14 Then he came up and touched the bier, and the bearers stood still.

    The-Widow-Of-Nain,-1927And he said, “Young man, I say to you,arise.” 15 And the dead man sat up and began to speak, and Jesus gave him to his mother.

    Imagine… get the picture. A widow no longer has a husband to support her. A woman cannot (in this culture or most) support even herself. A son becomes responsible for taking care of his mother; but the son himself is sick and dies.

    It is a picture of hopelessness for this widow of Nain.

    Yet as the providence of God would have it, Jesus, God Emmanuel walks into town just as all wail for her great loss at the funeral. Jesus has compassion for her, touches the unclean bier with the unclean dead body of her son. He sits up!

    16 Fear seized them all, and they glorified God, saying, “A great prophet has arisen among us!” and “God has visited his people!”

    17 And this report about him spread through the whole of Judea and all the surrounding country.

    It is the same compassion by which he has fed the multitudes and healed the sick (even from a distance); yet this time Jesus has done that which cannot be done without the Hand of God. He has resurrected a dead man.

    (There is a precedent the Jewish crowds would know well from a town of old nearby.)

    A woman once perceived another Prophet of God.

    2 Kings 4:

    Elisha and the Shunammite Woman

    Shumen map8 One day Elisha went on to Shunem, where a wealthy woman lived, who urged him to eat some food. So whenever he passed that way, he would turn in there to eat food.

    9 And she said to her husband, “Behold now, I know that this is a holy man of God who is continually passing our way. 10 Let us make a small room on the roof with walls and put there for him a bed, a table, a chair, and a lamp, so that whenever he comes to us, he can go in there.”

    11 One day he came there, and he turned into the chamber and rested there. 12 And he said to Gehazi his servant, “Call this Shunammite.” When he had called her, she stood before him. 13 And he said to him, “Say now to her, ‘See, you have taken all this trouble for us; what is to be done for you? Would you have a word spoken on your behalf to the king or to the commander of the army?’” She answered, “I dwell among my own people.”

    (The woman is content to have the blessing of showing hospitality to a true Prophet of God.)

    14 And he said, “What then is to be done for her?” Gehazi answered, “Well, she has no son, and her husband is old.”

    (Again, as we have just seen in the story of Jesus, a widow has great need of a man to take care of her. The woman and old man have no son, considered to be a blessing to a faithful family of God.)

    15 He said, “Call her.” And when he had called her, she stood in the doorway. 16 And he said, “At this season, about this time next year, you shall embrace a son.” And she said, “No, my lord, O man of God; do not lie to your servant.” 17 But the woman conceived, and she bore a son about that time the following spring, as Elisha had said to her.

    What a joy for a woman to conceive a child, especially the miracle of conceiving after the age of traditional childbirth as demonstrated by several important faithful women of God throughout the many generations of the Bible. Such births are always witness to the power of God to bring forth life where there cannot be life (by the world’s ordinary standards).

    It seems like a conclusion of God’s story of witness; but like Jesus, Elisha travels from place to place as God instructs and this chapter of Elisha’s miracles is more like a conclusion of ‘Act One’ for this couple blessed by the Prophet. Elisha’s room is always ready for his unannounced return.

    18 When the child had grown, he went out one day to his father among the reapers. 19 And he said to his father, “Oh, my head, my head!” The father said to his servant, “Carry him to his mother.” 20 And when he had lifted him and brought him to his mother, the child sat on her lap till noon, and then he died.

    Tragic. Yet a God who can bring life to a lifeless womb can restore life where and when the Lord pleases. We see now a remarkable faith of this woman (similar to that of the Roman centurion).

    21 And she went up and laid him on the bed of the man of God and shut the door behind him and went out. 22 Then she called to her husband and said, “Send me one of the servants and one of the donkeys, that I may quickly go to the man of God and come back again.” 23 And he said, “Why will you go to him today? It is neither new moon nor Sabbath.” She said, “All is well.” 24 Then she saddled the donkey, and she said to her servant, “Urge the animal on; do not slacken the pace for me unless I tell you.” 25 So she set out and came to the man of God at Mount Carmel.

    When the man of God saw her coming, he said to Gehazi his servant, “Look, there is the Shunammite. 26 Run at once to meet her and say to her, ‘Is all well with you? Is all well with your husband? Is all well with the child?’” And she answered, “All is well.”

    ‘All is well,’ answers the woman whose only son has just died in her arms?

    27 And when she came to the mountain to the man of God, she caught hold of his feet. And Gehazi came to push her away. But the man of God said, “Leave her alone, for she is in bitter distress, and the Lord has hidden it from me and has not told me.”

    Now, the grieving mother pleads to the Prophet:

    28 Then she said, “Did I ask my lord for a son? Did I not say, ‘Do not deceive me?’”

    Like Jesus did in Nain, Elisha shows compassion for the woman.

    29 He said to Gehazi, “Tie up your garment and take my staff in your hand and go. If you meet anyone, do not greet him, and if anyone greets you, do not reply. And lay my staff on the face of the child.” 30 Then the mother of the child said, “As the Lord lives and as you yourself live, I will not leave you.” So he arose and followed her. 31 Gehazi went on ahead and laid the staff on the face of the child, but there was no sound or sign of life. Therefore he returned to meet him and told him, “The child has not awakened.”

    32 When Elisha came into the house, he saw the child lying dead on his bed. 33 So he went in andshut the door behind the two of them and prayed to the Lord. 34 Then he went up and lay on the child, putting his mouth on his mouth, his eyes on his eyes, and his hands on his hands. And as he stretched himself upon him, the flesh of the child became warm. 35 Then he got up again and walked once back and forth in the house, and went up and stretched himself upon him. The child sneezed seven times, and the child opened his eyes. 36 Then he summoned Gehazi and said, “Call this Shunammite.” So he called her. And when she came to him, he said, “Pick up your son.” 37 She came and fell at his feet, bowing to the ground. Then she picked up her son and went out.

    This is but one demonstration of God’s power over life and death (the only one through the great Prophet Elisha). It is one of many demonstrations of God’s miraculous power to heal, even unto life. Jesus would, in addition to His own later resurrection after three days, raise a man from the dead as beloved to Him as this woman’s family must have been to Elisha: Lazarus.

    Later, Jesus is challenged by the Sadducees of the Temple of Herod about the resurrection. The witness of the Shunammite family at the time of Elisha was certainly recorded in their own Bibles! The evidence of Jesus’ miracles must certainly have been in evidence by many witnesses to all; yet they did not believe.

    Oh, you of little faith…

    Jesus said: “I am the resurrection and the life. Whoever believes in me, though he die, yet shall he live.

    How is your faith? Do you believe in life through Christ Jesus? Is He your Lord by faith?

    Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! According to his great mercy, he has caused us to be born again to a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead. –

    1 Peter 1:3-4

     

     

  • Daleth

    Daleth

    Your Word Is a Lamp to My Feet

    Daleth

    cling to the dust25 My soul clings to the dust;
    give me life according to your word!

    Genesis 2:7 KJV And the LORD God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul.

    Genesis 3:19 KJV In the sweat of thy face shalt thou eat bread, till thou return unto the ground; for out of it wast thou taken: for dust thou art, and unto dust shalt thou return.

    Psalm 119: 25 KJV My soul cleaveth unto the dust: quicken thou me according to thy word.

    26 When I told of my ways, you answered me;
    teach me your statutes!

    The Lord answers prayer. And where and what is the answer? In the word of scripture, including the commands, law and statutes of the Lord. The Spirit reveals all truth of scripture when we genuinely seek the Lord’s will with all of our heart (soul).

    Does your soul cling to the dust in humility before the Lord? Do you remember that we are dust and to dust our flesh will return?

    27 Make me understand the way of your precepts,
    and I will meditate on your wondrous works.
    28 My soul melts away for sorrow;
    strengthen me according to your word!

    Is anything too hard for the Lord? – Genesis 1:18a

    Though our soul clings to the dust and our spirit is downtrodden, how uplifted is our countenance when we look higher to the strength of God and glorify His mighty works and the grace of His compassion.

    29 Put false ways far from me
    and graciously teach me your law!
    30 I have chosen the way of faithfulness;
    I set your rules before me.
    31 I cling to your testimonies, O Lord;
    let me not be put to shame!
    32 I will run in the way of your commandments
    when you enlarge my heart!

    John 11.25And from the dust and ashes we shall rise in Christ Jesus!

  • How Do Children Respond to Grief?

    How Do Children Respond to Grief?

    By Rachel Harned, M.A. Counseling Ministries, Wheaton College

    Most people don’t know how to respond to other people’s grief.  Even fewer know how to respond to a child’s grief.

    My first introduction to grieving was when I was 6 years old and my mom died.  As a result, I wanted to post a follow up on interacting with grieving children.

    • First, it is important to look at what a child would consider a loss.

    When I was in 3rd grade, we moved from North Florida to Central Florida. That seemed like moving across the world to an 8 year old girl who had lived in the same house her whole life. I was losing my home, my friends, and my school in one fell blow. That was a major loss to me.

    A small toddler may even need to grieve the loss of a favorite stuffed animal.

    When I was 3 or 4, I cried for days when I lost my favorite doll. Almost every kid up until a certain age has a stuffed animal or blanket that they can’t go to sleep without.

    To a child, not all losses are equal but all losses are serious.

    A loss can be anything that affects how you live your life.

    I had to learn how to sleep without my doll and make friends in a new school and live without my mom.

    • You also have to be especially careful about your phrasing with children.

    You obviously don’t want to be too blunt but you can’t be vague about what’s happening or they won’t understand, particularly about death.

    I remember someone told me that my mom was asleep (or something like that) but she wasn’t waking up.

    For awhile, I did not want to go to sleep because I was afraid that I wouldn’t wake up either.

    Telling a child that someone passed away (probably one of the most common phrases) is better but young children will need to have it explained to them because they need to know what’s going on before they can process it.

    I use the word processing,’ but I want to talk about that for a minute because different people will do it differently.

    • God created us with different personalities that are very distinct, even in children.

    Many (probably most) children will want to talk about it but others won’t. If they want to talk about it, it’s important for them to have a listening adult ear.

    Hopefully, that can be in the form of a parent or other family member, but sometimes that’s not possible. Especially in the case of death, family members can be so focused on their own grief that they emotionally can’t handle the child’s as well.  It’s OK to admit that, but there needs to be someone available for the grieving child to talk to.

    The most obvious choices would be a pastor or a counselor but it could also be a close family friend (with a Christian understanding of death and eternal life).

    I was able to talk to mentors and friends’ parents about my feelings and that had a significant impact on how I was able to deal with my mom’s death and some other things that were happening in my life shortly afterwards.

    • If a child does not want to talk, that is OK too.

    Don’t push them into it. Sometimes they need to think about it on their own or just wait and see what changes occur before they talk about it.

    As I mentioned in my previous post, it is important to acknowledge that grieving is normal and OK with adults, but it is doubly important to tell this to children.

    In a society where it is a virtue to “pull yourself up by your bootstraps,” I have seen many children taught that crying is a sign of weakness and that only babies cry. This is especially common with boys.

    The problem with that is that some things are worth crying over. One of my parenting pet peeves is when parents tell their sobbing children “it’s OK” but clearly, something is not OK or they wouldn’t be crying.

    A better phrasing might be “I know it hurts right now but you WILL BE OK” or something along those lines.

    That applies to grief as well. When a child is caught in the middle of a divorce or has just lost a parent, sibling, pet, etc., they need to be told that it’s OK to cry about it now but, eventually, it won’t hurt as much.

    Also, if you don’t let out your feelings of sadness, they will inevitably manifest themselves in another way, usually in depression, anxiety, or anger. I have no research to back this up but I am convinced that the rise in teens that need anti-depressant or anti-anxiety medications is at least partially due to the increasing stigma against proper grieving in our culture.

    Feel free to comment below with any other questions, tips, or stories about your experiences with grief.

    And please SHARE our discussions on How to Respond to Grief with any who are grieving.