Tag: relationship

  • Persevering the Social Distancing of Virtual Relationship

    Persevering the Social Distancing of Virtual Relationship

    Letters to a Distanced Church

    A quick glance at the map reveals many first century churches near the Aegean Sea, a long voyage from Jerusalem.

    Believers of The Way had to depend on distant leaders to sow and nurture virtual relationships:

    • to each other,
    • to other churches (many in local or nearby homes)
    • and to distant Shepherds of Christ like Peter and Paul.

    The Apostles embraced these saints of so many distant churches with Christ’s love. They loved their flocks through letters and by occasional visits of their founding fathers (Apostles and other disciples of Jesus). Each of these mission churches had its own shepherd, sometimes a father of the household where they met.

    Like the Gospels, Church Letters (Epistles) arrived by messenger or with its own pastor (Shepherd or father) returning from Jerusalem, Rome or other place where the Apostles could encourage them in Christ.

    A voyage to Thessalonica from Rome or Jerusalem is about the same distance.

    Pastoral letters (from the Shepherds or Church Fathers) would be read in as many of the churches along its route as practically possible.

    Do you suppose that the saints of the Church in Thessaloniki suffered social distancing from their local friends, neighbors and businesses?

    YES. In fact many early Christians were socially distanced from their own communities and neighbors due to threat of persecution or even death.

    2 Thessalonians

    from the Church Fathers of the First Century

    Paul, Silvanus, and Timothy,

    To the church of the Thessalonians in God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ:

    Grace to you and peace from God the Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.

    We ought always to give thanks to God for you, brothers and sisters, as is only fitting, because your faith is increasing abundantly, and the love of each and every one of you toward one another grows ever greater…

    Hear Paul’s heart for them and note how these socially distanced Christians coped with a new reality much different than before.

    4 As a result, we ourselves speak proudly of you among the churches of God:

    • for your perseverance and faith
    • in the midst of all your persecutions and afflictions which you endure.

    This is a plain indication of God’s righteous judgment so that you will be considered worthy of the kingdom of God, for which you indeed are suffering.

    Commentary on a too-familiar setting
    • Does this also encourage you in your social isolation from the brothers and sisters of Christ’s Church?

    Picture this background from commentary of John MacArthur:

    ..pressure and persecution had also increased. The seeds of false doctrine concerning the Lord had been sown, and the people were behaving disorderly.

    So Paul wrote to his beloved flock who were: 1) discouraged by persecution and needed incentive to persevere; 2) deceived by false teachers who confused them about the Lord’s return; and 3) disobedient to divine commands, particularly by refusing to work.

    Who witnesses Christ’s love in you?

    Our own 21st century community also watches us, even as the Lord Jesus assures His distant lambs held near in every era,

    “In the world you have tribulation, G2347 but take courage; I have overcome the world.” – John 16:33 NASB

    There’s that PRESSURE AGAIN.
    Pressure from Affliction – ours and our loved ones.

    Paul assures the Church of Relief & Retribution

    For after all it is only just for God to repay with affliction those who afflict G2346 you, and to give relief to you who are afflicted G2346 and to us as well when the Lord Jesus will be revealed from heaven with His mighty angels in flaming fire, in flaming fire, dealing out retribution to those who do not know God, and to those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus.

    2 Thessalonians 1:6-8 NASB

    Sinners AFFLICTED — Sinners without hope as once we were.

    SEPARATED by our sin, DISTANCED from the Lord God never seeking Christ Jesus, the Savior who cleanses our soul.

    Afflicted by others, but also sinners spared from Judgment by the mercy of the Lord Jesus.

    • COVID – Social Distancing for a time known to the Lord.
    • Judgment – Just punishment separating sinners from God forever.
    • COVID will end, replaced by other pandemics of the world’s sin.
    • Judgment will come to the unrepentant after our mortal time expires.

    These people will pay the penalty of eternal destruction, away from the presence of the Lord and from the glory of His power..

    2 Thessalonians 1:9 NASB

    Yet in Christ, our Lord and Savior, with the Presence of the Holy Spirit; even now — in these days of affliction — we draw near to the love and light which shines through the darkness of this world.

    Amen.

  • Padiddle

    Padiddle

    Padiddle

    ‘Padiddle,’ it came to me as I was driving home at dusk one evening. Padiddle, where did that come from? Then I remembered.

    I had not grown up with it, for our family had played other travel games in the car. In fact, as I observed a car in traffic with no lights on at all, the very moment from 45 years ago came to me.

    The car in my rearview mirror had only one headlight, which from a perspective of safety was just a little better than a car with no lights whatsoever. ‘Padiddle,’ I thought. I had first heard it from my first wife (so many years before). She went back to her daddy after just a little more than a year of our young marriage. I was devastated, but recalling some of our happier moments brought a smile to my heart.

    Failures from our past

    I had failed in that marriage forty-five years ago and in other relationships/marriages since. Of course I was part to blame; but I was never the one to give up on my vows or run out on my marriage. I had even had a successful, ‘until death us do part’ marriage which lasted more than two decades. Nevertheless, even after all these years guilt and regrets remain from my marriage to the bride of my youth.

    Why couldn’t I have gotten it right – the first time… or those other times? Why didn’t I see the hurt in store from the most-intimate of relationships?

    “Can a blind man lead a blind man? Will they not both fall into a pit? – Luke 6:39

    Embarking into the mysterious journey of a dating relationship can be a most blinding experience. We listen to our own hearts and hormones. We look to others for advice, if anyone at all. Seldom do even the faithful seek to be equally yoked; thus we run into the love of a new relationship at different speeds.

    The heart is deceitful above all things,
    and desperately sick;
    who can understand it? – Jeremiah 17:9

    A further examination into this description of our blind hearts will reveal more convicting words than sick. (Who has not been described as ‘love sick?’) Think of it more like  עָקַב beyond cure, exceedingly corrupt or desperately wicked, to name a few.

    Truly, failed relationships recall times of great darkness. Yet in Christ we have a Light brighter than the darkness of the world. … in him is no darkness at all. 

    Relationships often rush forward without tail lights to warn, ‘don’t follow too close.’ An oncoming unexpected one of the opposite sex approaches you with only one dull light, frequently trespassing God’s centerline in their approach to winning your love.

    Will you swerve to miss the impact of the pain ahead? Or will you too cross the center line of God’s will?

    A Promise we can hold

    So what is it we have, if we look to the Lord for hope in our marriages?

    Although Jesus was never married to a woman, for our Lord is married to His church; Christ gives couples a new hope to which we can hold.

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    “I will never leave you nor forsake you.”

    – Hebrews 13:5, quoting Deuteronomy 31:6

    If the Lord is part of our marriage, He will not leave us stranded or deserted or alone once more.

    Although the intent of this quote of the Law in the letter of Hebrews is not specific to marriage, it applies to the character of Christ. Taken in context, a look a the preceding verse will also encourage.

    Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.

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    May I remind us of Jesus’ words to the Apostle Philip, who followed Him three years?

    Jesus said to him, “Have I been with you so long, and you still do not know me, Philip? Whoever has seen me has seen the Father. How can you say, ‘Show us the Father’? – John 14:9

    I find it most encouraging in our marriage that Jesus, who said,

    ‘Let your yes be yes and your no be no;’

    Jesus, who watches over the lost sheep and our Lord who teaches that ‘the two become one;’

    He who IS and was, the One judge of all souls at the end of the age assures us:

    “I will never leave you nor forsake you.”

    In Him there is no darkness at all

    Matthew 5:

    14“You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. 15 Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house. 16 In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.

    31“It was also said, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.’ 32 But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.

    1 John 1:5

    This is the message we have heard from him and proclaim to you, that God is light, and in him is no darkness at all.


    To him all the prophets bear witness that everyone who believes in him receives forgiveness of sins through his name.” – Acts 10:43

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    Have you replaced your missing Light?

    In Christ Jesus we have forgiveness of sins.  Whoever believes in him is not condemned. John 3:18a 

    This includes your partner in marriage. Jesus includes you, as well. Believe in the forgiveness of of your sins of the past. Just replace the light and turn back to your Lord and Savior.

    John 3:19 And this is the judgment: the light has come into the world, and people loved the darkness rather than the light because their works were evil. 20 For everyone who does wicked things hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his works should be exposed.

    Padiddle, I say. We cannot have just half the light the Lord intends for our marriage.

    21 But whoever does what is true comes to the light, so that it may be clearly seen that his works have been carried out in God.”

    Replace the darkness of the broken light of your failing love. For He IS our Light. Our love cannot shine clearly for others, even the one we love, without Jesus, our Lord and Savior. Each husband and every wife need the complete Light of Christ in the oneness of their marriage; for He IS the One who says, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.”


     

  • My Love – 1

    My Love – 1

    Let us not blur the beauty of the loves of God.

    God has given man (& woman), created in His image, various loves for our pleasure and blessing; love for men and women of His creation to enjoy as God our Father has intended.

    Chronicles of NarniaC.S. Lewis, renowned author of children’s stories such as in “The Chronicles of Narnia,” wrote several noteworthy books for thinking adults as well.

    The Four Loves In this month well-stimulated by the marketing of sex as love, I would like to focus today on Lewis’ refinement of our English language use of the word, ‘love’ from his book, “The Four Loves.”

    Other contemporary Christian authors such as Gary Chapman have counted with care the very languages of these loves, best known in Chapman’s excellent book on relationships, “The Five Love Languages.

    Although I will not address the applications of communication (on which Chapman focuses), I intend to both refine and expand your perspective on love, as enumerated by God and expected of creatures made in His image who would speak and live the love of Christ Jesus.

    Lewis points to confusion caused by the English language using only one word, love, for emotions described by the Greek language by four words defining entirely different loves: agápe, éros, philía, and storgē. The Four Loves summarizes four kinds of human love–affection, friendship, erotic love, and the love of God. 

    Indeed, these do overlap in the relationships of love while each category of love is as distinctly different as within these our love differs with each individual.

    God has made us for relationships – relationships of love with him, our loving Creator, and with one another, all created in the image of the Living God.

    My friendship with one who would hear my heart is not equal to the lasting friendship refined in the emotional forge of time. My affection for those moments shared even with an acquaintance or stranger drawn toward like-things I love cannot compare to a treasury of time invested in certain family and cherished friends.

    “In a relationship.

    God once was in a relationship with Man (adam). This relationship of love is restored in Jesus Christ.

    “In a relationship.

    From the beginning, when God made woman from man, a man and his wife are in a relationship until they are parted by death (which came to our mortal flesh because of sin).

    “In a relationship.

    A father and a mother have, with the help of God, begotten children: sons and daughters in their image, yet so different from each other. Their relationship is the root and core of family.

    “In a relationship.

    The love between parent and child (of any age) is not a love between equals. Yet the love of great friendships have built the community God expects for us to thrive in troublesome loveless times.

    Love has many places in our life. If we will remember God’s place for love in our relationships, we will be blessed by love’s triumph.

    Yet are we not cursed by love’s defeat by our very sins of loveless lack of relationship to God, to our children, to our parents, to our friends and to our church?

    Indeed of our daily struggles we might ask of any of the faces of our love: are we truly ‘in a relationship?’

    To be continued